Young girls at risk of managing their sexuality

Young girls from around the world are in a crisis of managing their SEXUALITY, the current open environment of internet and the psychology of care free attitude has proven to be one of the biggest hindrance for young girls.

From US to Australia, girls of less age group are getting pregnant in different parts of the world. Most of them are seen being students of high school who have the knowledge of sex but still the percentage of young girls are getting pregnant around the globe is in high trend.
 
Some group of people reason it due to lack of awareness, some due to lack of use of contraceptives but there is a group of people who have been blaming it to the Fashion industry. The local fashion industry has been targeting young girls as their target which has established themselves to be vulnerable group in relation to their sexuality. The industry promotes and sells clothes and style  attracting girls to replicate their style.  The adolescent girls fall prey to the care free attitude of modernity where unknowingly they start to promote sexuality through what they wear where they become vulnerable to weak sexuality.

"After puberty girls are in a state of  exploring their sexuality, its human nature to  attract but when the young girls wear less clothes and are very loud make up then it attracts the attention of their counterpart which then results in unwanted sex. Wearing less clothes highlighting their  curves and  wearing high makeups certainly makes these girls think and get perky about their sexuality," Sam Rays a psychologist adds, "These young girls are in the process of exploring their sexuality, when they see  the model and  fashion industry promote nudity and less clothes, they, in their interest of looking good  adapted that but on the other side they also prepare themselves unknowingly. They adapt and focus more towards spending more time in thinking as well as learning about the freedom of Human behavior. Humans have evolved with the  laws of sexuality, our race has grown this old become of the attraction and sex which cannot be undermined. our minds are very active in everything we do we are result oriented. Nature has made our mind body and soul with first intention of mating and reproducing which makes us more vulnerable, specially with the nudity and makeup."

On one hand blaming the fashion industry is not just a ways out, the Feminist group or women activists have been terming this as a domination of the male society, where the Father or man leads the life of a girl and when she grows her husband leads her life . To some extent this statement is justifiable but  giving full rights to a teenage girls and having her pregnant at 13 is not an option. It is not justifiable in any case scenario.

Highlighting this especially in US most of the community churches have been practicing the purity oath that pledges a girl to stay virgin till the times she gets married. It is right or wrong but it certainly saves a girl from being pregnant which to some extent is  justifiable.

Pregnancy rate world wide 

In USATeen Pregnancy Prevention 2010–2015 has been launched . As part of the Teen Pregnancy Prevention Initiative (TPPI), CDC is partnering with the federal Office of the Assistant Secretary for Health (OASH) to reduce teenage pregnancy and address disparities in teen pregnancy and birth rates. The OASH Office of Adolescent HealthExternal Web Site Icon (OAH) is supporting public and private entities to fund medically accurate and age appropriate evidence-based or innovative program models to reduce teen pregnancy. The purpose of this program is to demonstrate the effectiveness of innovative, multicomponent, community wide initiatives in reducing rates of teen pregnancy and births in communities with the highest rates, with a focus on reaching African American and Latino/Hispanic youth aged 15–19 years. A community wide model is an intervention implemented in defined communities (specified geographic area) applying a common approach with different strategies. Communitywide approaches will be tailored to the specified community, and will include broad-based strategies that reach a majority of youth in the community (i.e., through communication strategies and media campaigns); and intensive strategies reaching youth most in need of prevention programming (i.e., through implementation of evidence-based programs and improved links to services).


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I believe no matter what  men and women both have equal rights, but with the unnecessary freedom of getting a young girl pregnant is not an excuse. I believe today's fashion industry is all about creating a buzz they will and do everything to make a woman nude and get the attention. Their role and impact is just limited with in  their popularity where the alternative affect of it is seen as young girls exploring their sexuality which cannot be overlooked. Fashion is about looking good and comfortable, its not about making your self nude and faking its to get fake attraction.  

A girl should be educated and given every rights but she should be protested from every vulnerabilities till the time she can think and understand for herself .

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Facts about Bhoomika Kochhar's Case

Bhoomika Kochhar who recently committed suicide on June 15, 2013 is a clear case of Women Exploitation and Domestic Violence. Especially looking at it from the angle of  women exploitation then its a case that can teach us so much about the role of domestic violence and abuse.

Bhoomika Kochhar and Akaash Jatia fell in love with each other at Boston University where they both studied for four years under the college's undergrad programme in 2006. With family disagreement and hesitation, they got married on January 2011. After the marriage, Bhoomika, a resident of Muttontown in New York, shifted to Nepal to live with her in-laws. Their marriage was going through rough edges where Bhoomika was unhappy and depressed.

Domestic Violence (Crime and Punishment) Act, 2066 (2009) of Nepal says, ""Domestic Violence means any form of physical, mental, sexual and economic harm perpetrated by person to a person with whom he/she has a family relationship and this word also includes any acts of reprimand or emotional harm."

Similarly, the Interim Constitution of Nepal, 2063 (2007) prohibits physical, mental or any other form of Violence against Women (VAW) and declares that such acts shall be punishable by law [Article 20(3)]. It also incorporates a separate article recognizing that women’s rights, including reproductive rights, are fundamental. The Interim Constitution recognizes the right to equality as a fundamental right. It provides that all citizens are equal before law [Article 13(1)].

According to the Kochhars, “They claim to spend over $2 million in dowry till date. Bhoomika was physical and mental tortured despite this. She was willing to end her relationship and come back to the US,"

Section 3 (1) of Social Behaviour (Improvement) Act of Nepal states that noone will take or give dowry. Dowry is illegal but its practice is very common in Nepal, especially in Madhesh where marriage is a pompous affair and dowry an integral part of the wedding ceremony.

"Bhoomika was a well educated and sensible person who under such domestic circumstances committed suicide. She left her family  and opportunity for her husband and became a Nepali citizen. She was mentally and psychologically pressured with high notion of intention where she landed herself to depression in absence of support and love. Her emails clearly state that she was ignored and suppressed by her mother in-laws expectation and needs, where overcoming the verbal abuses and ignorance was a torture for her. One cannot imagine her psychological state in regards to the happenings and her state of mind.Though her act doesn't justifies the wrong that was happening to her but it highlights the current trend of dowry and psychological pressure that a woman goes through in a family after marriage," said Sajina Karki a Lawyer.

According to the Police, " Due to the complication of the case there are many hurdles where the we have not been able to intervene in the case for instance  bhoomika's suicide was reported after the body was taken to the Hospital, so the we are not sure about the position and posture of the suicide. We have to completely  rely on the autopsy  report. Police have confirmed that they have received three copies of the FIR that Bhoomika’s father had lodged on different dates. In absence of the bhoomika's Father the police is not able to further investigate properly in the case."

  

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we keep our mouths shut

 Everyday we think about the change and do nothing. We just think change is something that ought to happen instantly without any effort. we just lay our efforts with in the comforts of  our vision where we think but we don't act. In reality we just accuse or throw words or blame others, but we forget that when we point one finger at others four fingers point at us.
It’s said that “don’t hate the game hate the players;” likewise, Nepal’s politics today has turned into a garbage; a garbage full with pollutants of selfishness, corruption, and Hypocrites.
Whether it’s Nepali Congress or UML or the Maoist party, there is not a single politician or leader who could be respected or worth getting the respect. All of them, they are so limited and bounded by their selfish motives and games that they forget they are the servants of public. More or less, they indulge themselves to luxury of cars and securities with the hard earned money of tax payers and citizens disgracing their oath of serving public.

In fact reality is Politician is such a respectable image where we confine our believes and aspirations,  we trusts the leaders to play a crucial role in overall development of the country but till date we have just seen them engaging themselves in corruption, power politics, commission rackets, favoritism, social discrimination, lobbing selfish motives, accumulating people money in foreign banks etc .
I bet there is no politician who would be respected from heart by any one. They disgrace the societal values of socialism where they take the oath of serving the nation but alternately support their individual party in strengthening their forces and power.
The problem here is not with the leaders, the problem here is with us the normal people, we select these leaders and when they get to power, they play and manipulate us in their desired ways but we keep our mouths shut. We just move to their rhythm where they treat us like nobody.

I say and believe every Nepali has the bloody right to ask each of these leaders about what they did and what they are planning to do coz it’s our Nation and we are the tax payers.  As we pay taxes in everything from buying a chocolate to sewage to cold drinks, everything but still we are least bothered group.  Moreover, the hard earned money completely goes in vain paying hefty salaries and comforting their luxury. It’s our responsibility to remind them of their mistakes where we lack.
We ignore e the fact that we pay taxes and it’s our RESPONSIBILTY to see what is happening and to validate their actions but we don’t have time.  Likewise, we blame everything upon them which is completely erratic and irresponsible, as they are selected by us. We do protests; do blockades, Chaka Jam, Bandhas etc on useless things but regarding our politicians and their acts we keep silence making it limited within the voices of an unknown tables and chairs.

The fascinating part is we say politics is a dirty game, but it’s our garbage. Just by saying it’s bad or disgracing it, things won’t change. We have two choices either we keep our mouths shut and let the things that’s happening go on or do something about it in any way possible.  It’s upon our efforts and we need to dig our hands into the garbage and clean it, because it our garbage and nobody else is coming to clean it we have to do it by ourselves.

We the young blood the so called generation-X needs a wake up call and say that yes we are determined not just to blame but to take charge. We have to take responsibilities in every possible way of being a good citizen and work our way in the system. It might take days or years, but change is supposed to happen and it will happen no matter what. We have the skills and courage and let’s unite to bring change.

This is not just a call for me, you or anyone, it’s a call for every Nepali who feels pride to say he or she is Nepali and if you care about it spread the awareness and save our nation. Let’s take the promise to bring change not just by words but by social awareness and by social change where our small effort counts and each individual matter to say that he or she is a part of this society and we can play a crucial role for the development of our country. Let’s make Nepal a better Nepal for the coming generation to be proud of where we can hold our heads high to say we brought the change.

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